If you are just graduating from college, have just lost your job, or are having a hard time making ends meet, you may face having to move back in with your parents. And it might suck. But don’t worry, there are plenty of things you can do to prepare yourself emotionally for the move.
First of all, know that you are not alone. We are called boomerang kids or the boomerang generation because, these days, 3 in 10 young adults will have to move back home because of tight finances. In fact, according to the Pew Research Center, 78 percent of the boomerang generation feel OK about living with mom and dad and 77 percent are hopeful about their future finances.
You may be living under your parents’ roof again, but this time you are living there as an adult. Now that you’re an adult, you shouldn’t expect your mom to make your bed or supply you with clean laundry. Not only will you need to take care of your responsibilities like you did when you were on your own, but you may be asked to help out with household chores or to chip in with expenses. It may seem like a bummer at first, but this will help you feel responsible and in control. It will also encourage your parents to treat you as an adult.
Keep your long-term goals in mind. Understand that this is just a phase, a necessary step so that you can save up enough to move out and live on your own. Setting expectations and goals is an important step that you should think through seriously. It often helps to use the SMART method. That means your goals must be Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Timely.
Maintaining a healthy relationship with your parents is key while you are living at home. That means making sure you are on the same page about how long you need to live at home and what the ground rules are. Make sure you’re all on the same level when it comes to ideas and expectations.
Hopefully, you have a relationship with your parents in which you can talk with them about anything, but if that is not the case, you should plan to lean on your support system of friends, other family members, and a therapist when you need to vent. If the move has made you feel like you aren’t yourself anymore, know that it’s OK to get help from a counselor.