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Just like my dad says, “At the end of the day, it’s all about looking in the mirror and liking what you see.”

Many of us tend to create our own interpretation behind the meaning of “perfection.” The majority of us walk around and glance at our surroundings and peers while picking out the “perfect” people in the distance.

But what I never realized is that we are looking at their “cover without a summary.” My therapist once told me something which inspired this topic choice. He said, “We create a summary in our heads of what we think another person’s life might be, but imagine if we actually got to know them and their story? Our perspective on them being “perfect” might just change.”

We scroll through various social media platforms every day and see a bunch of models, just wishing we could look like them. But we have to remember that those pictures are often created for entertainment. These models are captured in the perfect pose, perfect outfit, and perfect filter. We only see them at their best.

What I’ve learned is that you cannot measure someone’s success simply from the content they post on social media. That one picture that you see was captured during one happy second of their life. So what about the other seconds of their life? We don’t see the rest. We don’t see the painfully sad, raw moments, such as the loss of a family member or a breakup. My cousin made me aware of this recently and because of this, I am taking a social media break. Maybe it’s something you would benefit from trying too!

When we try to excel to the standards of being perfect, it can create a very harmful mentality and may ruin many opportunities for you if you don’t learn to overcome it. It is mentally and physically impossible to give 100% of yourself during every single moment of your life.

Always remember that you were born in this body. I grew up to be 6 feet tall, with big brown eyes and brown hair and sometimes I really wish I could swap those traits out for others, but it is about time we start appreciating ourselves by learning to love ourselves just the way we are.

Wherever your next phase of life might be, don’t waste your time trying to broadcast your life as picture perfect for Instagram and instead, try living in the moment/enjoying the present. Living and experiencing life can be as simple as trusting that you’re exactly where you need to be in life. Life isn’t a race and you are right on time. Cherish each moment as you’re in it.

Take the notion that you have to be or look a “certain way” in order to be relevant or important or loved and throw it out the window. Instead, take care of yourself, express yourself, do the things you love, and live life to the fullest. Remember, you are perfectly imperfect and special in your own way!


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  • Stephen Harris

    Amazing article Mackenzie . So well written So proud of you and everyday I realize how blessed I am to call you my daughter. You are loved by so many and now your advice your insight is helping so many others.

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  • Julian

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    Thank you so much for that awesome post. I often hear the quote: If you can’t love yourself, you’re not able to love someone else. And this is so true. You have to find piece with yourself. Like Buddha said. I am. That is all you need to know.

    I am from Germany, and i often read articles like that in the evening – even though its english and i dont understand every word. But its better than Netflix imo.

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    • Vibrant Communications

      Julian, thank you for reaching out to us and for your feedback. We’re here for you any time, day or night, at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) if you’re struggling and need someone to talk to. Don’t hesitate to call us if you need support!

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    • Marc

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      Thats absolutely true Julian. Keep going with that attitude. Don’t waste your time accept your body and your appearance.

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  • CarolYn quinn

    I have never received the sweatshirt I ordered with some proceeds going to suicide prevention

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  • Carolyn quinn

    I never received the sweatshirt I ordered

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  • Katja

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    Thanks for your tireless efforts on this website. As the previous speakers have already written, I am also very happy to read your texts. They really help me enormously and I always feel much better afterwards. Thanks for that. You are doing a great job!

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    • Vibrant Communications

      Hello Katja, I’m glad to hear that you we were able to be there for you and hope to continue being there as a support system for you. If you need someone to talk to, remember that the Lifeline is here for you any time day or night, every day of the year at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Your life matters!

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  • Schungit

    Hello, i want to say thanks to all which contribute to this project and write articles like these. You cant imagine how good it feels to read articles like this. I feel better and better. Even though i have panic attacks sometimes i am feeling more comfortable with myself day by day. Sometimes i feel alone, because i tend to depersonalize… I’ve had 3 panic attacks since I started using weed and I feel really weird since my last one. I feel kind of empty and listless. Like I don’t know what to do with myself. Even though I always thought that weed is harmless, I now know that it can lead to a deep cut in my personality. Anyone who reads this and is not really emotionally stable should leave it alone.

    Does someone else experienced that?

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    • Lisa

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      I experienced the same thing like you did. Had like 2 Panic attacks in the last week, just completely random and sometimes when i am arguing with my girlfriend. I felt like i dont know where to go and what to do, panic attacks leave you with weird feeling and can sometimes cut pretty deeply.

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